Probably the most encouraging message I heard all week was that it’s okay to completely suck at new things. Thanks, Emily P. Freeman! Sucking at new things is normal. It doesn’t mean that you’re out of favor or in the wrong place in your life. It just means that you’re doing new things! You’re being adventurous. You’re stepping out!

I thought I’d share this with you because today is January 18th and according to the New York Post (and loads of life experience), if you set New Year’s resolutions this year you’ve probably already not lived up to your own expectations by now.

Did you catch that word? Expectations.

That means that you set a goal, or maybe 15, and you went for them. Good for you! You stepped out and tried a lifestyle or a heart change. For days, maybe weeks, it went your version of “well.” AKA, you did it EVERY DANG DAY. Good for you!

And then life stepped in. You overslept, your car broke down, you didn’t feel like going, or you were SUPER emotionally unstable that day. Then, you missed the day and maybe used the opportunity to crap talk yourself.

Life is like yoga class, honey. You take what you need.

Or maybe you’re like me and you didn’t set a resolution because you already know what it does to you. You’re super on top of making little goals periodically through the year and can’t be bothered to set up “I’m going to fix my life real quick” goals, BUT you did come into the year with expectations. You DID step into a new year full of change, and by the second week, you’ve already had a panic attack and lost sleep from all the newness. The effect is the same: you start shit-talking yourself.

I’m here to tell you that even though your expectations aren’t lining up with reality, it’s okay. Even though you haven’t been taking new things as gracefully as you imagined, it’s okay. It’s also okay to be real and say, “Dude, this is TOUGH right now, but I’m still where I need to be.” It’s okay to say, “No, I can’t call right now” or “I’m going to push through” or “I need some help right now.”

Life is like yoga class, honey. You take what you need. You go at your own pace. You ease into child’s pose as many times as you need to. You return to your breath and close your eyes as often as you need to. After all, you’re still here. You’re still showing up. You’re still practicing.

So here’s a little message to myself that I’m sharing with you:

Dear, it’s okay to be exactly where you are.

All my love,

Jess